Back in March 2017, an article of mine was published on the ItEquals website. ItEquals is the place where the power structures that govern us are critically unpicked. Where big issues and ideas are discussed in regard to their atomic structure. Feminism, discrimination, culture, arts, and what we see in media. It’s all there to be dismantled.
‘Being Asexual in a Sexualised Society‘ discusses my experience coming out, my journey, and how those around me have reacted. The article aims to raise awareness about asexuality and how sexualised our society has become.
The article was produced at the age of 18, when I was still naive about many things; thus some ideas and thoughts no longer represent how I feel today, or represent a surface idea that I have since studied at a deeper level. Also, as of December 2018 I no longer identity as asexual as it turns out I was just repressing my actual sexuality. This in no way discredits those who identify as asexual, nor the validity of the experiences I had.
Following the publication of my article, I was approached by writer Imogen Robinson, to contribute on two articles about asexuality for The Femedic. The Femedic exists to normalise taboos surrounding women’s health. Their writers talk about their personal experiences with women’s health issues, ask the questions that need to be asked, and work with experts to provide in-depth answers.
“However,” Devon adds, “There is an issue with how people discuss sex.” It is talked about as if it is something everyone is expected to do, which causes pressure simply because everyone believes what they are told about it. “It’s why I initially struggled to find a definition for my sexuality,” Devon says, “Because we’re not educated on it…”
The first article, ‘How Do I Know if I’m Asexual?‘ asks exactly that. With expert contributions, furrow research, and input from myself, the article explores what it means to be asexual, the stigma, societal pressures, and how we go about discussing it.
How can you live without sex?
“I’m always tempted to just reply ‘get over yourself’,” says Devon, “but I’m aware that such a response can backfire on me.” In Devon’s opinion there is a strange idea going round that asexual people can’t or won’t have sex and it’s far from true. “Yes, there are some ace [asexual] people who are sexually repulsed,” she says, “but there’s also others who are completely up for it.”
The second article, ‘I’m Asexual: here’s what I always get asked‘ covers the typical questions asexual people hear all the time. From “What does it mean?” to “How can you identify as two things?”, it explores how different asexual people response to such questions and how those questions impact them, while offering some brilliant resources for anyone questioning their sexuality.